DON'T BE AN ASSHOLE. A LESSON FROM CHESTER...

People are your greatest resource.
10.12.2014

When I was born, the government name I was given is one that I never use: Carson Jamal Wright IV.

Carson C. Wright. This man was tough. You had 
to be tough to be one of the few Black Sergeants 
in the NYPD, during the Civil Rights Era. He took 
hell from both sides of the controversy.You can 
see the resolve in his eyes. At least I can.

I never use it because it sounds tight-assed to me. 

My dad's dad, was Carson Chester Wright. We are all Carsons, but the tradition is that the first born sons are always called by their middle name until their father dies. So I am Jamal. And my father, Carson Anthony Wright, is "Tony." I respect this tradition even though my son's name is Jhalil D'Vyne Wright. But I digress, as always.

My grandfather Chester, was one of the first Black police Sergeants in Queens, NY. In fact, the Wright family has a history with many members in law enforcement. It's strange to me considering how many problems I've had with authority figures. But grandpa Chester wasn't really much like me. He was a man of God and an Elder in St. Paul's Pentecostal Church, an organization he helped to create with his wife, Dorothy Wright, my dear grandmother. It was the church I grew up in. and even now, 50 years later, it thrives.

My dad's favorite, of my grandfather's 11 brothers, was Irving Wright. He was a cop too. But he also operated a small business in Harlem. Unfortunately, he met an untimely demise when He was shot in the back and killed by friendly fire from other cops who mistook him for a criminal who robbed his store. Irving was chasing the real culprits at the time of his murder, by cop.

The more things change, the more they stay the same. 

Although that's plenty reason for a cop to be bitter towards the streets, my grandfather never was. In fact, he told me the following story all the time:

YOUR BODY IS A MACHINE. REMEMBER THAT...

You should watch this lecture. But if you don't, you have my notes. You're welcome America.
3.29.2014

This is my favorite lecturer, Ya'll. Lend him your ear. Notes from Simon Sinek. The expert on Leadership:


Your body is a machine. There are four biochemicals responsible for your happiness:

EDSO

The first two are selfish Chemicals. In other words, you don't need others to indulge in them.

ENDORPHINS: Designed to mask physical pain. They are the reason you run, and feel no pain until long after you stop running. It's the endorphin rush. When you laugh hard, your organs convulse. The reason why that doesn't hurt is cause of Endorphins. But then they run out. That's what happens when you laugh so hard, it hurts. Your Endorphins have run out.

DOPAMINE: Responsible for the feeling you get when you've accomplished something you've set out to accomplish. The purpose of this chemical is to get you to get things done. It goes into action when you cross something off your "to do" list. We get a shot of it even after we accomplish eating...
Dopamine is HIGHLY ADDICTIVE. Other triggers for Dopamine = Alcohol, Nicotine, Gambling and even your cellphone. The addictive quality of Dopamine is the real reason that many people are easily distracted, or have problems paying attention; wrongly attributed to Attention Deficit Disorder. You can even get addicted to performance through dopamine. Dopamine is the reason people write down their goals. Ever forget something on your "to do" list, then do it, THEN write it down THEN cross it out? You wanted the Dopamine "fix."